Once in a relationship, partners are expected to exercise a greater level of control on what they say and of course, what they do.
Especially with members of the opposite sex, there is a limit to the permissible things you can say jestfully and there should be a cap to the information you can divulge to any other woman.
This is because constant communication and deep talks enable bonds and that’s not what you want to encourage or enable when you already have a relationship or marriage.
It could also be seen as disrespect by your partner when you divulge some private things to other women. It also could breed suspicion, problems which you should be avoiding at all costs, instead of activating them.
So what are the six things you should keep yourself from saying once you are married [or in a relationship]?
1. I need someone to talk to
Never do this. Your confidant, adviser, secret-holder has to be your wife.
2. Do you think I’m a good husband?
Why would you be asking this question from another woman? If you need validation from anyone, it has to be your wife and no one else.
Plus, the very fact that you need an answer on this means you are likely not a good husband.
3. You have boyfriend, don’t you?
Let’s even pretend for one second that this does not sound totally wrong coming from you, a married man.
Let’s pretend you asked innocently and without any selfish/sexual intentions, what kind of message is this supposed to send to the woman being asked?
eight times out of 10, she’ll probably think you are hitting on her, except you’re related by blood.
This is to be avoided by all means, no matter how [im]pure your intentions are.
4. Let’s hang out
Asking another woman this question once you are married or in a serious relationship should never cross your mind, except your wife will be there or it’s compulsory for business purposes.
5. I and bae aren’t on good terms
This is not to be discussed with another woman, except maybe she is your therapist or counsellor.
Even at that, please always try settle with your partner/wife before getting ANY other person involved!
6. We haven’t done it in a long time
Hold that thought right there, bruh. That’s way too much information to be giving someone else except a counsellor or someone with whom the chances of a sexual connection is zero.
If you’re not at couple’s therapy or having this conversation with your wife, then you should not be having this conversation.
Doing so could lead to finding what you did not bargain for.
Or maybe that’s exactly your intention from the onset.