There’s a strange quiet that follows a public breakup, especially when the breakup itself played out in front of hundreds of thousands of eyes. For Habeeb Hamzat — the TikToker most people call Peller — that quiet has turned into a vow: he says he won’t fall in love again. Ever. At least, that’s the line he delivered during a recent livestream with fellow creator Kolu, and it landed heavily — because this isn’t just another social media flex. It’s tied to something darker, something that shook him and the people who watch him.
A promise born from pain
You can tell this is not a casual comment. Peller said, bluntly, “I won’t fall in love ever again. God will not allow me to embarrass myself ever again.” It’s short, sharp, a one-liner that tries to shut the door for good. But the weight behind it comes from events that are still hard to digest. Back in December, Peller was in a very public crisis: he deliberately crashed his car in what was described as an attempt to end his life. The context was heartbreak — pressures and threats tied to the breakup with his longtime girlfriend, Jarvis, who is also a content creator. They split weeks after that incident, and since then Peller has been vocal, sometimes raw, about how he feels.
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I don’t know about you, but there’s something oddly familiar in this pattern. People make absolute claims when they’re wounded. I’ve seen it, you probably have too: after something really bad, it feels safer to draw a hard line — to say never, to swear off whatever hurt you. It’s a kind of emotional armor, maybe. And sure, that armor helps in the short term. But whether it holds up? That’s another question.
Public pain, private consequences
Here’s what complicates things: Peller’s struggles weren’t just private. They played out where people could watch, comment, and weigh in. That changes the calculus. A breakup between two private people is painful enough. A breakup between two creators — with livestreams, reactions, clips, and headlines — turns pain into content. The audience becomes both witness and jury, and that can make healing messier.
He also made another sweeping claim not long after: that he would never marry a Nigerian. That’s a different kind of vow, more cultural and sweeping, and it opened another layer of conversation. Are these statements reflective of deep-seated hurt, or of a defensive posture meant to push people away? Maybe both. I don’t want to pretend I can read his heart, but what I do notice is how trauma can bend beliefs into absolutes. And when those absolutes are public, they invite scrutiny, debate, and, often, backlash.
A natural reaction — and an imperfect one
To be frank, I don’t blame him for feeling jaded. Breakups — especially when they’re dramatic — leave scars. They also make us cautious and, yes, sometimes bitter. But making a blanket rule about never loving again feels like a temporary shelter rather than a solution. People change, situations change. Feelings, for better or worse, aren’t always under strict control.
Still, there’s something important to acknowledge: Peller went through something that could have ended his life. That’s serious. Whether one agrees with how he expressed his pain or not, the reality is that he needed support. Online talk, jokes, and takeovers don’t heal that. They may distract or inflame, but they don’t fix the root issues.
Why the reaction matters
When influencers make absolute statements — “never again,” “I’ll never…” — those lines echo. Fans adopt them, critics amplify them, and the subject of the statement becomes a cautionary tale or a martyr, depending on who’s talking. The sway of social media makes personal pain into a narrative. And narratives simplify. They shrink nuance into neat headlines.
But real life is rarely that tidy. If Peller’s vow holds for a lifetime, fine — that’s his choice. If it doesn’t, that’s life too. People heal at different paces, in different ways. You can stand firm in your claims today and then, months or years later, quietly change your mind. That’s human. Slightly messy, sometimes contradictory, often surprising.
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What could help — and maybe will
It’s easy to offer solutions from the outside, and harder to live them. Still, I think a few things would probably help Peller or anyone in a similar spot: time, therapy, honest friends who can call you out gently, and a space to grieve without the cameras. Also, maybe fewer absolute declarations when you’re emotionally raw. Not because you’re weak for feeling strongly — but because strong feelings can soften with time. I say that because I’ve watched people rebuild. It’s not neat. It’s not fast. But it’s real.
There’s also a broader conversation here about how we, as audiences, respond. Do we pile on the judgment? Do we treat vulnerability like entertainment? We could be kinder. Or at least, a bit more cautious.
A closing thought
Peller’s vow to never fall in love again is vivid. It’s a reaction that makes sense and also, in some ways, worries me. People say things to protect themselves. Sometimes those things last. Sometimes they don’t. What matters now — regardless of whether he keeps that promise — is that he’s safe and has room to heal. That, more than any bold declaration, is the piece that will determine what comes next.
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