There’s something about celebrity relationships that makes even the simplest update feel like a headline. Harrysong’s recent remarks fall into that trap — loud, a little messy, and impossible to ignore. The Nigerian singer, who split from his wife Alexer Peres last year, told Yanga FM Lagos that he’s now in a polygamous setup, and then added a twist: all his girlfriends know one another. That line was delivered almost casually, but it carries a lot — about choice, about gossip, and about how public figures manage private lives.
A quick version: he said he’s in a polygamous relationship, everyone involved is aware and consenting, and people are being treated with respect. He even referenced Ne-Yo — the American singer — pointing out that Ne-Yo has three wives, as though that example should settle any debate. Some of Harrysong’s partners, he said, are foreigners, including one American. That’s the surface story. The deeper one is more complicated.
Two sides, different stories
It’s worth pausing on what got us here. Harrysong and Alexer divorced in 2024 after about three years of marriage. His explanation for the split was blunt and personal: he claimed his then-wife became pregnant by another man while they still lived together, and that the couple hadn’t been intimate for over a year. On the other hand, Alexer denied those claims, accused him of domestic violence, and alleged he cheated on their wedding night. So, messy — clearly. And unresolved, in the sense that there are accusations flying both ways.
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That context matters because it changes how we hear his new statements. When someone who has publicly accused an ex of infidelity and violence then announces a polygamous lifestyle where “everybody is being treated right,” it prompts questions. Are these relationships a reaction to the split? A personal preference? A response to public scrutiny? Honestly, probably some mix. People often reinvent themselves after a breakup, and sometimes that reinvention is performative — or defensive — or genuine. Maybe all three.
Polygamy: choice, norm, or headline bait?
Harrysong framed his stance around consent. “No one was forced,” he said, and emphasized respect and fairness. He also suggested people should “do whatever makes you happy” and not force opinions on others. That’s a familiar argument in conversations about non-monogamy: consent is the moral bedrock. If everyone knows and agrees, the claim goes, the arrangement is ethical.
But real-life consent is messy. People can consent under pressure, for money, for fame, for love, or because they think it’s expected. Saying something out loud on a radio show doesn’t automatically prove everyone involved really chose freely. Still, the emphasis on knowledge and respect is worth noting — and I do want to give him credit for not painting it as something clandestine or shameful.
The Ne-Yo comparison is interesting — perhaps meant to normalize the idea by pointing to a known figure with multiple partners. But different cultures and legal systems treat polygamy very differently. What works for one person or one celebrity in the U.S. or elsewhere isn’t a universal template. And people often latch on to celebrity examples as proof that something is acceptable, which is… not always persuasive.
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A public life, private pain
There’s another layer that’s easy to overlook: the toll of public accusations. Whether the claims against Harrysong are true or not, both he and Alexer have had details of their personal lives aired publicly. That’s rough. It’s hard to rebuild after a breakup when every move gets a headline. Choosing a certain lifestyle might be a way of reclaiming agency — but it also keeps you in the spotlight.
Also, his remark that “every one of his current girlfriends is acquainted with all the others” reads oddly. Acquainted is a soft word. Friends? Comfortable with each other? Tolerant? It could mean a dozen things. It could also be an attempt to control the narrative — to make the arrangement sound orderly, tidy. Real relationships rarely fit tidy descriptions. They wobble. They shift. Some things are okay one day and not the next.
What this says about modern relationships
I think this story taps into two persistent themes: the search for authenticity and the challenge of social judgment. On the one hand, Harrysong’s candor — however headline-seeking — suggests he wants to be honest about his life. That’s refreshing in a world of curated images. On the other hand, dropping a personal life update in an interview, amid accusations and legal-sounding claims, guarantees controversy.
There’s also the social angle: people will react based on cultural background, religion, personal experience, and gender. Some will defend his choice; others will criticize it. Many will do both, in different tones. That’s human. I find myself not fully settled on one view either. Part of me respects spoken consent and adult choice. Part of me worries about power imbalances and whether public pressure or celebrity status skews true freedom.
A final thought
Stories like this don’t wrap neatly. They’re full of mess and cross-claims and gray zones. You can admire someone for being upfront and still feel skeptical about the broader picture. You can sympathize with the fallout of a messy split and also question what comes next.
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Whatever the truth between Harrysong and Alexer, and wherever his current relationships go, this episode is a reminder that private choices become public dramas when you’re famous. People will pick sides. Some will judge. Some will defend. And the person at the center — sometimes they just want to live their life, messy or not.
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